Together?

My husband took me out for lunch today.

What a special treat!

We talked, ate and enjoyed our time together.

At the table next to us, I noticed another couple. The young lady was pregnant and her husband, a working man. They had met for a few minutes together. But were they REALLY together?

I noticed the soon to be momma, reading something on her phone. Her husband, quickly set up his iPad on the table and read it while waiting on the food to arrive. I don’t think more than a dozen words passed between them the entire time we were there.

How many times have I done that? I may be near my children, but on the phone. I may be  cuddling with my husband, but watching something on the computer or checking my email. I may be at the dinner table, but some electronic device is near by. I love to do crossword puzzles on my phone ( I am convinced it is good for my aging brain), but at what cost?

To us, family means putting your arms around each other and being there. – Barbara Bush

How much of the time we spend with our families is spent with a screen between us, in front of us or around us! We tend NOT to live in the moment, embracing those close to us with the arms of our attention. How easy it is to squander the moments together that soon become an hour, a day, a lifetime . . . never to be relived.

 

 

It is time for WAR!

I need to fight against the encroachment of these devices on the time our family spends together and learn to live in the moment with those I am with!

How?

Here are some suggestions:

1. Be aware of the tendency to have devices around us.

2. Stop, look at each other in the eye, listen completely.

3. Try to eat at least one meal together and have something special you do during that time:

– Younger children can share what they learned during the day

– Discuss politics with your older children

– Play an educational game at the table to open conversation i.e. Brain Quest

– Read the Word

– Go around giving everyone a chance to say what they are thankful for

– Laugh

– NO PHONE CALLS or ELECTRONICS allowed at the dinner table

–  Share your family stories at the table

4. Spend an evening a week playing table games with something that doesn’t take batteries

5. Find a GREAT read aloud book and read a chapter a day together

I know what I SHOULD do, but I  struggle… Today I want to begin a WAR against these devices taking over my family relationships! Today I commit to treasure each moment to the fullest and not allow devices to steal time from those I love.

Are you with me?!

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Forgiveness

I thought the smell was coming from the 18 wheeler next to me as I headed to Orlando early this morning. Totally ruining the beauty of the sunrise out the passenger window.

“It smells horrible! Must be that truck,” I commented.

“Yes it does,” agreed my daughter.

We drive on for another hour and a half, with the burning oil smell whiffing through our car.

After I drop my kids off at their once a week school, I called my husband.

“The car is stinky!”

“Oh Boy, I must have forgotten to put the lid back on the oil, again!”

I pop open the hood, and sure enough, no lid.Image

Yucky, yellow mess covered the hood, and the engine. What a mess!! The second time in the same number of weeks. Yep I am frustrated. Now I need to go hunt for an auto part store and add the oil and figure out what else needs to be done.

I hang up, ashamedly, in a huff. Once again, let down. Funny (no, not really) how one small thing can bring up all the past hurts and mistakes.

Found the store, the cap and the oil. Feeling like a woman that can take care of herself, I make may way to the car wash and on to the local book store to read, work and wait for my kids.

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What did God tell me today during my quiet time with Him after this oil spill? In a word, DIE

“When Christ calls a man, he bids him to die”  Bonhoeffer

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What?

Forgiveness requires death! Jesus died so that I can be forgiven. My sins are forgiven and forgotten! Wiped away.

So why is it so easy for me to bring back the past when others have hurt me? Because I haven’t truly died. Died to self! How can I be so selfish that I hold on to the past, bring it up, and rehearse it over and over, when my God has forgiven and forgotten much BIGGER and GREATER sins of mine? Sins that I repeat, habits that are hard to get over?

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Oh Lord, help me be filled with Your Holy Spirit so that I can forgive, really….

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The Good or the Best

“Finally brethren, whatever things are true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report, if there be any virtue and if there is anything praiseworthy-meditate on these things.” Phil. 4:8

The time was late. I wanted to watch a cute movie and spend time with my daughter. We snuggled in bed and went to Netflix to choose something nice.

We clicked…it downloaded.

She stopped and said, “I don’t know if we should do this.”

I answered, “I don’t know either.”

But we did.

It was an okay PG film. It had its usual one spot we fast forwarded. It was wonderful to spend time with my daughter.

But I woke up this morning wondering….

How are we to be “in the world and not of the world”. How do I train my children to choose wisely what they watch, what they spend their time doing, what they read!

I have honestly not come to any definite guidelines. But I have realized that to compromise in what is small, leads to compromise in what is big. We walk in the direction our feet our pointing.

In my own life, I have noticed the ease of heading down the slippery slope of going along with the small voice that says, “Go ahead, it isn’t a big deal”. Because of  that, I have found myself in situations I never thought I would, because I didn’t head the small voice on the little things.

“Very few of us would debate over what is filthy, evil, and wrong, but we do debate over what is good. It is the good that opposes the best.” Oswald Chambers

Choosing anything that will keep me away from what is BEST, Jesus and walking WITH Him, is choosing what I shouldn’t. Letting go of that which I feel is my “right”, what I feel is “okay”, and seeking God’s “right” is where He wants me and where there is freedom in Him.

Help me, Lord, abide in you. Give me the strength to choose what is BEST. Give me the wisdom to help my children choose You.

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The Joy of Serving

It started out as a simple breakfast time.

Just a couple of us ladies visiting, sharing and encouraging each other as we try new healthy foods. We have started drinking smoothies and juicing, sharing our stories and laughing!

Last week it was my turn to host. As we get started, my daughter quickly turns the radio on, she begins cutting fruit, I roll the biscuits out. It is early, but we are serving. Funny how it is all about perspective. Serving, hospitality, sharing time and food.

And the gift is to us, the servers. God sends an encouraging word, a special hug and a blessed smile because we were willing to serve.

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I am Learning

I am a woman who has traveled life’s road and climbed the ups and careened right through the downs. I have failed,  been forgiven and the journey continues as I learn to sing HIS song. I hope that as I share my life with you and how God is leading, cleaning, wiping and teaching, you will be blessed and know that He has a song He wants to hear you sing.

“In the full light of the day, and in hearing of the music of other voices, the caged bird will not sing the song that his master seeks to teach him. He learns a snatch of this, a trill of that, but never a separate and entire melody. But the master covers the cage, and placed it where the bird will listen to the one song he is to sing. In the dark, he tries and tries again to sing that song until it is learned, and he breaks forth in perfect melody. Then the bird is brought forth, and ever after he can sing that song in the light. Thus God deals with His children. He has a song to teach us, and when we have learned it amid the shadows of affliction we can sing it ever afterwards.” Ellen White

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